BESTSELF™ ICEBREAKER | Courage 23

WHERE ARE YOU NOT ACCEPTING THAT YOU'RE PART OF THE PROBLEM?

This prompt made me realize that I’m steadily becoming less and less the common denominator in the drama of my life. In fact, there is very little drama - a change from what used to be a constant reality. I used to think the only way that could happen would be if I became a recluse, a hermit, and disengaged myself from connection and community. That has proven untrue. It boils down to two key factors: discernment and gratitude.

I’ve always preferred to have a small group of good friends who would challenge and support me. I struggled to find acceptance which was more an issue with me accepting myself than allowing others to do so. I personally always found myself worthy of many beautiful things, but it was drilled into me from a young age that I was not worthy of anything. The level of gaslighting, shame, blame, guilt, judgment, and cruelty was relentless. I compounded the problem for myself by making expected choices, not those that aligned with how I wanted to show up in the world.

Each and every day, when I’m faced with a fork in the road, I make the next right choice. What is right? The one decision that aligns with who I am. It took a long time to get to be the me I am now, and I’m doing all I can to support my evolution - in alignment with the best version of myself.

NOTE: I’m taking August off - there will be no posts until September. Enjoy your dog days!